He loves me...He loves me not.

Recently, Journal, I've been presented with many occurrences of "marriage talk" and "dating talk" and bla bla bla. Biola has their "ring by spring" joke and rumor that girls who attend Biola are just looking to be a pastor's wife. We have the Alpha Chi stereotype that all girls are boy crazy and if a guy wants a girlfriend quick they need just walk down a hall. The pressure of finding your life partner seems an underlying concept that is just called a "stereotype" because really, Journal, everyone knows it's true for the majority. Probably twice a day at least I will hear girls talking about this guy or that and how they "don't want to get married until they are graduated" however, if God "shows them the right person..." Students here cannot decide for themselves whether or not they want to play into the tradition, so instead they just play it safe with the "if God wants me to, I will" card.
Sorry Journal, I'm sure I've used "quotes" enough in this one post for about five...but I couldn't really think of any other way to get this across. So, Journal, what do I think about it, you ask? Well, I'm not sure whether to call this stereotypical or unstereotypical, but honestly, I don't think you should even date in college, let alone get married. Why am I any different than all the other girls hiding the fact they really want to date? Because I can back my position up with solid, passionate opinion! Yeah.
I guess I'll tell you my opinion. So, I don't want to date in college because there is no point unless I'm ready to get married. And I'm not. I know people like to say you should date so you can get to know what you like in guys, but honestly, that's dumb. There is nothing you can't learn from a guy when he is just your friend than if you were dating him. If anything, Journal, I think that you can learn more because you see them for who they are, not who they are trying to be to impress you. If you have those four years or however many to get to know this guy as your friend, then once you decide that you want to date them, 1) you'll really know if you want to date them and 2) you'll know if they start changing once you are dating for whatever reasons. Dating shouldn't be a time of learning who they are as a person, but who they are as a possible...husband.
I guess I should wrap this up, but all I'm trying to say is that girls tend to rush into relationships because all they really want is attention from a guy (you can get that from a guy FRIEND) and they are excited at first, but then it dies and they get their heart broken and then they move on to some other person they don't' know. But how exciting would it be to actually know this guy and get to date him after you both know you want to be with each other. God says that patience is a virtue, however, last time I checked Journal, it wasn't a very practiced one. If people were more careful about who they wanted to be with, maybe the divorce rate wouldn't be at 50% or whatever it is. Or marriages would just be happier. I think when we are pulling petals off a flower and reciting "He loves me, he loves me not..." we manipulate the outcome because we want what we want. Sound familiar?
Who knows Journal, maybe I'll completely ignore my own advice and be dating someone next week. But until then, I'm staying true to what I believe because if you think about it, it kinda makes a lot of sense. Until next time Journal, stay single and happy!